Do you have unmet goals?
You aren’t alone. In fact, most of us live with unfulfilled aspirations, which is why the self-help industry is booming.
Although self-help can be a great way to get you motivated, many widely used self-help techniques fail to deliver results.
Case
in point: You’ve probably heard of the “Yale Goal Study”, researchers
were said to have interviewed the graduating Yale seniors in 1953,
asking whether or not the students had written down specific goals that
they wanted to achieve. Twenty years down the road the researchers
looked up each student and discovered that the 3% of the class who had
written down their goals had accumulated more personal wealth than the
other 97% combined.
Very compelling study, but complete fiction.
The “Yale Goal Study” never happened, though motivational speakers and self-help books have quoted it for years.
Best
selling author and psychologist Richard Wiseman went on a mission to
craft a no-nonsense response to the bogus self-help techniques. Using a
diverse range of scientific data he uncovered a proven approach to
achieve any goal.
The following 5 successful techniques (Do
This) and 5 unsuccessful techniques (Not That) are from Wiseman’s
book, 59 Seconds Change Your Life in Under a Minute.
Do This: Make a Step-by-Step Plan.
If you are serious about achieving your goal, then you need to create a step-by-step plan mapping out how you will do just that.
Successful
goal-achievers break down their overall goal in to sub-goals. Each
sub-goal needs to be concrete, measurable and time-based.
Not That: Motivate yourself by focusing on someone that you admire.
Studies show that focusing on someone you admire is not a strong enough motivator to see your goal through.
Do This: Tell Other People About Your Goal.
How badly do you want to achieve your goal? If you want it bad enough, you’ll tell your friends and family.
This
technique works on two levels. First, you’ve put yourself on the spot
by letting the world in on your goal, so it’s all-eyes-on-you. Failure
would be public. Second, your friends and family are there to offer
support and encouragement. Don’t underestimate the psychological power
of having someone in your corner.
Not That: Think about the bad things.
When you focus on the negative it becomes your reality.
Do This: Focus on the Good Things When Achieving Your Goal.
Remind yourself of the benefits associated with achieving your goal.
Make
a checklist of how life will be better once you have achieved your aim.
This gets your focus on a positive future, one that’s worth the
effort.
Not That: Try to suppress unhelpful thoughts.
Rather than trying to erase that image of chocolate cake from your mind, learn to deal with the reality of temptation head-on.
Do This: Reward Your Progress.
Studies show that attaching rewards to each of your sub-goals encourages success.
Your rewards should never conflict with your major goal. When aiming to lose weight, never use food as a reward.
Not That: Rely on willpower.
Willpower alone rarely gets anyone to their goal.
Do This: Record Your Progress.
Make your plans, progress, benefits and rewards concrete by expressing them in writing.
Use
a hand-written journal, your computer or a bulletin board to chart your
progress. This process is priceless for maintaining motivation.
Not That: Fantasize about life after achieving your goal.
Daydreaming is fun, but simply fantasizing about your new life will not make it a reality.
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